We talk a lot about fear getting in our way and overcoming fears in order to accomplish our goals. We also talk about how we get in our way sometimes because of expectations, unclear goals, or a multitude of other things we do and believe. But what about things that are not in our minds that become obstacles and detours? That’s what I’m going through right now and I bet you can relate.
Change is hard but not only in the ways you think
I’m moving to a new home and it’s really exciting but full of challenges. Some of the challenges we anticipated and prepared for. Others, not so much. Like the fact that the bathroom renovation is still not complete. I had set a specific goal for when I want to have the old house sold so not being able to move into the new place yet has created quite an obstacle. We’ve had to get a little creative to find a third spot to put ourselves in the meantime so that the old house can be cleared and revamped for the market.
Beyond that, I have personal and professional goals that I’m trying to reach as well. The house situation – which is full of obstacles – has actually become an obstacle in some of these other areas. Running a business, hosting a podcast, attending meetings, and participating in the various groups and communities that I love is a lot more complicated during this transitional period.
That’s what I keep reminding myself though. This is a transitional period. It won’t always be like this. There are opportunities all around me to find new ways to adapt and pivot and grow. The warm glow of my new home is just around the next corner (or maybe the next corner after that?) and I just need to keep going.
Practice Radical Acceptance
When you’re moving towards your goals – or even when you’re literally moving – your fears and expectations will get in your way. But so will logistics, finances, other people’s needs, things that need to be prioritized, emergencies, one-time opportunities, and a dozen other things. These things may feel like they’re stacking up and becoming a mountain that may be impossible.
This is the moment where practicing “radical acceptance” can save you. The core principle of radical acceptance is that you learn to accept the current reality exactly as it is without applying either regret or hope. To be clear, this is not about “letting go” or being apathetic at all. Instead, this is looking at the facts as they really are in THIS moment and making mindful decisions for yourself based on this reality.
You may need to:
Evaluate what’s possible each day and adjust your schedules accordingly
Find ways to get creative in order to accomplish small steps
Revise your definitions of progress and success
Enlist the help of others either as collaboration or outsourcing
Set a list of tiny goals that still serve your bigger goals
Recognize that trying new ideas and methods will mean more mistakes
Celebrate small things that might not normally matter as much
The main objective is to never give up on your goals. If you need help adjusting your plans or finding creative ways to overcome the obstacles in your current reality, get in touch and we can have a collaborative Goals Chat to see how we can help each other.
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